***Last updated on 21 November, 2019 with Page 10 at the bottom of this article.
Please excuse this self-serving off topic post. I’m not sure why but I felt the need to share this today…
Today is Father’s Day. I wish my Dad (Aaron) could appreciate it. He has been diagnosed with “mixed Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia.”
The problems seemed to start several years ago. At first I thought he was just getting old. A little over 2 years ago it became apparent it was more than that.
2 years ago I took him to his first Neurologist. While the young doctor seemed competent he lacked anything resembling compassion or “bedside manor”. He scared the hell out of my Dad. We left that appointment with some pills and half-assed advice.
A year later instead of keeping the follow-up appointment, I took him to another doctor. This one was had a much better bedside manor.
My Dad lives with us. He has an “in-law suite” in the basement with a large bedroom, bathroom, and TV room. The situation has become progressively… difficult.
*below added/edited, 27 September, 2019
He is now unable to dress himself and groom himself. My wife and I have to tend to all of his other needs. He is often paranoid and prone to lies and delusions. Usually I am the bad guy and that has been the case for some time.
He cannot be left alone.
While we are home there is no respite from having to deal with him. And, it is only getting worse.
He started daycare but he has gotten highly agitated and they can’t or won’t deal with that. There is an older woman that has sat with him 2 times and he doesn’t like it one bit. As for the other options such as professional daycare, that is money I don’t have.
The Alzheimer’s Association has been no help. All they did was send me a bunch of links to stuff I already Googled.
The Veterans’s Administration was worse than no help.
I keep a running journal of sorts via Google calendar. I’ll share some entries with you (warning, it’s kinda long):
Page 1 – Introduction
Page 2 – 18 February, 2019 – 15 June, 2019
Page 3 – Response to your replies
Page 4 – 20 JUNE – 14 July, 2019
Page 5 – 18 July, 2019 – 21 July, 2019
Page 6 – Finding Help
Page 7 – 22 July, 2019 – 19 August, 2019
Page 8 – 21 August, 2019 – 17 September, 2019
Page 9 – 18 September, 2019 – October 13
Page 10 – October 16 –
***Special section: My Dad Has Alzheimer’s – Gadgets, Gizmos, Etc.
My Dad gets into everything. These are the things I’ve used to keep him and our house safe.