Page 3 – Response to your replies
I am very touched by the responses I have received both through comments and email. I am honored and humbled by your support and advice. Truly, it is/was emotional for me. Just as this post was open I wanted my responses to be as well. I do recognize we are very, very near the point of bringing in outside help and not to far away from more than that.
Respite care (day time) – I plan on taking advantage of this soon. I actually just applied for and received a positive response for the Virginia Lifespan Respite Voucher Program which gives up to $400 for respite care. A small thing but it is a start.
Nursing home – He isn’t quite at that stage yet. I understand this will be necessary in the near future.
Driving – He actually drives quite well. Seems aware of his limitations (though we wont admit it). Only goes to 3 places, all just of the main drag. How long this is to be the case is anyone’s guess. The moment I take his license will be beyond devastating for him and akin to pushing him towards the grave. Again, I understand this will come soon and I monitor him closely.
Veteran – I’ve researched his situation and he falls under the following category which makes him eligible for the VA Aid & Attendance Program:
Vietnam era (February 28, 1961 – May 7, 1975 for Veterans who served in the Republic of Vietnam during that period; otherwise August 5, 1964 – May 7, 1975)
I will be applying for this the minute he hits that stage.
Counseling – I never have been able to do that. Not that I couldn’t have used it on occasion but it isn’t in me and never will be. You guys have already helped me more than you know. Working on this site and hearing from you all is very much therapy for me.